失戀這件小事給我們的一些小教訓

4. Complete yourself

完善你自己

I do agree that other people can improve you and fill your life with joy and wonderful colors, but you should realize that people will never complete you or live up to your expectations. There’s no need for validation from your partner. First of all, you should learn to cultivate self-love before you can share it with your beloved. Try to develop yourself until you find yourself confident and complete. It requires you to change your actions, thoughts, emotions and behaviors.

我贊成其他人能夠幫助你提高自我、并且讓你的生活更加美好和豐富多彩，但是你應該意識到，人們永遠不會去成全你或者滿足你的期望。沒有必要事事都要得到另一半的批準。首先，在能夠和愛人分享你的愛之前，你要學會愛自己。試著提升自己，慢慢地你會變得更加自信、更加完整。這就需要你改變你的行動、想法、情感和言談舉止。

5. Don’t even try to change your partner

不要試圖改變你的另一半

You can change many things in this world, but it’s almost impossible to change your partner’s outlook and habits. All you can do is to show the right path to your partner and if they have an internal desire to change, they’ll make a shift. A humanpsyche has the capacity to ignore things and ideas strongly imposed by others. This way your partner may achieve temporary improvements and then return to their casual habits again. If you cannot stand something in your partner, then you should shift your energy and react to the situation in a different way. It’s better to stay calm and respond everything in cold blood.

在這個世界上你可以很多東西，但是幾乎不可能改變另一半的觀點和習慣。你所能做的只是把一些正確的方法展現給他們，如果他們內心想要改變的話，他們會主動做出改變的。人類的靈魂會習慣性忽視別人強加給他們的思想或行為，用強加的方式可能會讓你的另一半暫時得到提高，但是不久之后他們又會回到原來的樣子。如果你不能忍受另一半的某些缺點，你就應該把精力放在改變自己身上，用不同的方式去應付各種狀況。不管面對什么事情，都最好保持冷靜。

6. Get rid of your inner conflicts

擺脫你內心的糾結

Your attitude and behavior in your relationship can be the reflection of your fears and anxiety whichreign in your sub consciousness. If you want to have a healthy relationship, you should start from healing your inner world from fears and conflicts. Plus, you need to do all possible things to boost your self-esteem. Begin to love yourself and you’ll be able to share your love with somebody else.

你在戀愛中的態度和行為舉止，都會反映出你潛意識里的恐懼和擔憂。如果你想要有一段健康的戀愛關系，你就應該從治愈你內心世界的恐懼和擔憂開始。還有，你需要盡可能地做一些提升自己自尊心的事情。開始愛護自己，這樣你才能夠去愛別人。

7. Learn how to let go gracefully

學著優雅地放手

It seems that some relationships teach us how to honorably let go. After a considerable reflection on the opportunity to build a happy and healthy relationship, you may realize that this love doesn’t cost your time and energy to continue. Unhappy relationships teach you to struggle for happiness. Furthermore, you should use the opportunity to let go of the past in order to be able to find the true love of all your life and cultivate a long and loving relationship. Don’t become disheartened the next time you face a relationship break-up, because it may help you develop a new vision of the world and start a better relationship.

似乎有一些戀愛總會教我們怎么去體面地放手。盡管可能有機會建立一個幸福和健康的戀愛關系，但經過相當多的反思之后，你會明白這份愛不值得你再繼續花費時間和精力了。不快樂的戀愛教會你如何為幸福做斗爭。除此之外，你應該把握這次對過去放手的機會，從而能夠找尋你生命中的真愛、并和TA培養一段持久有愛的戀愛關系。當你再次面臨分手的時候，別泄氣，因為這有助于你換個視角看世界、并開始新的戀情。

4. Complete yourself

完善你自己

I do agree that other people can improve you and fill your life with joy and wonderful colors, but you should realize that people will never complete you or live up to your expectations. There’s no need for validation from your partner. First of all, you should learn to cultivate self-love before you can share it with your beloved. Try to develop yourself until you find yourself confident and complete. It requires you to change your actions, thoughts, emotions and behaviors.

我贊成其他人能夠幫助你提高自我、并且讓你的生活更加美好和豐富多彩，但是你應該意識到，人們永遠不會去成全你或者滿足你的期望。沒有必要事事都要得到另一半的批準。首先，在能夠和愛人分享你的愛之前，你要學會愛自己。試著提升自己，慢慢地你會變得更加自信、更加完整。這就需要你改變你的行動、想法、情感和言談舉止。

5. Don’t even try to change your partner

不要試圖改變你的另一半

You can change many things in this world, but it’s almost impossible to change your partner’s outlook and habits. All you can do is to show the right path to your partner and if they have an internal desire to change, they’ll make a shift. A humanpsyche has the capacity to ignore things and ideas strongly imposed by others. This way your partner may achieve temporary improvements and then return to their casual habits again. If you cannot stand something in your partner, then you should shift your energy and react to the situation in a different way. It’s better to stay calm and respond everything in cold blood.

在這個世界上你可以很多東西，但是幾乎不可能改變另一半的觀點和習慣。你所能做的只是把一些正確的方法展現給他們，如果他們內心想要改變的話，他們會主動做出改變的。人類的靈魂會習慣性忽視別人強加給他們的思想或行為，用強加的方式可能會讓你的另一半暫時得到提高，但是不久之后他們又會回到原來的樣子。如果你不能忍受另一半的某些缺點，你就應該把精力放在改變自己身上，用不同的方式去應付各種狀況。不管面對什么事情，都最好保持冷靜。

6. Get rid of your inner conflicts

擺脫你內心的糾結

Your attitude and behavior in your relationship can be the reflection of your fears and anxiety whichreign in your sub consciousness. If you want to have a healthy relationship, you should start from healing your inner world from fears and conflicts. Plus, you need to do all possible things to boost your self-esteem. Begin to love yourself and you’ll be able to share your love with somebody else.

你在戀愛中的態度和行為舉止，都會反映出你潛意識里的恐懼和擔憂。如果你想要有一段健康的戀愛關系，你就應該從治愈你內心世界的恐懼和擔憂開始。還有，你需要盡可能地做一些提升自己自尊心的事情。開始愛護自己，這樣你才能夠去愛別人。

7. Learn how to let go gracefully

學著優雅地放手

It seems that some relationships teach us how to honorably let go. After a considerable reflection on the opportunity to build a happy and healthy relationship, you may realize that this love doesn’t cost your time and energy to continue. Unhappy relationships teach you to struggle for happiness. Furthermore, you should use the opportunity to let go of the past in order to be able to find the true love of all your life and cultivate a long and loving relationship. Don’t become disheartened the next time you face a relationship break-up, because it may help you develop a new vision of the world and start a better relationship.

似乎有一些戀愛總會教我們怎么去體面地放手。盡管可能有機會建立一個幸福和健康的戀愛關系，但經過相當多的反思之后，你會明白這份愛不值得你再繼續花費時間和精力了。不快樂的戀愛教會你如何為幸福做斗爭。除此之外，你應該把握這次對過去放手的機會，從而能夠找尋你生命中的真愛、并和TA培養一段持久有愛的戀愛關系。當你再次面臨分手的時候，別泄氣，因為這有助于你換個視角看世界、并開始新的戀情。